I went back to work when my son was three months old, and, honestly, it was probably the hardest thing I’ve ever done. Baby’s dad didn’t have a job (nice), and healthcare in America doesn’t think its a big deal for women to have time to bond with and care for their children, despite the studies proving that it is beneficial for both mother and baby (but that is another can of slugs.) Anyways, my wonderful mother stepped in to care for the newborn bear full-time. It was so difficult being away from him for 8+ hours, five days a week. Still breastfeeding, trying to pump and all that, dodging criticism from my superiors, dealing with being sent to manage an entirely different store, etc. Long story short, after about six months of that, I couldn’t handle it. Breastfeeding was easy (for me), but I couldn’t pump enough milk for baby, and he even started losing weight. I called out sick one day because I had no milk to leave for him. I talked to my boss, and she allowed me to step down from being a manager, and accept a different role that was part-time. It was amazing. I was very thankful to have someone who worked with me instead of just laying me off.
Who could leave this??!
So baby now plays with his grandma about 20 hours a week, which is great. However, I’m starting school in August (woohoo!), to become an Elementary school teacher. Which means that I now need to find a daycare for Sammy, because as much as Grandma loves him, she needs a life too! I have worked in schools, and in daycare’s, both public and, private. I attended a Waldorf school until I was 8th grade, and from my personal experience, that is the kind of education I want my child to receive. I’m not saying its terrible to put your kid in public school, or that it’s going to mess them up or something, I just know we all want the best for our kids, and for me that is what I think is best. I value the approach to teaching the whole child, and the natural toys and everything. Yes, I will occasionally turn on Sesame Street, so I CAN DO LITERALLY ANYTHING, FOR FIVE MINUTES, but no, he doesn’t have an iPad. SO I’ve been trying really hard to find a Waldorf-ish or Montessori inspired daycare (baby bear is 16 months, so he’s not even in preschool yet.) I’m a single mom, yes I get child support (baby dad is great btw, although I don’t know if I’ll ever get over him not having a job to help out in the beginning, tbh), but living in San Diego is so, so expensive. Rent, bills, food, etc, (trying) to save money. Why don’t I just move? Because this is my hometown, all my family and my support system is here. Also, amazing weather. But I digress. What I’m trying to get at is….I do not have an extra $375 A WEEK, to throw around. That’s $19,500.00 a year! My entire yearly salary is not a whole lot more than that. Yes its a great environment, and the feed the kids, and blah blah blah, but seriously? If it was every month, I could probably, if I really tried, swing that. The other options are Church-run daycares (we’re not religious), or state-subsidized ones. Obviously people put their kids in those, and they turn out fine. Maybe you’ll call me privileged, or any number of things (this is the internet after all), but I feel the approach to learning is totally screwed up. 0-3 year olds should not be being “trained” to sit still, hold a pencil in their hand, and be reading/doing up close work. It is entirely detrimental to their cognitive development. Kids that age should be experiencing the world through sensory play, not being made “kindergarten ready. Just check out this article;
https://www.popsugar.com/moms/How-Play-Preschool-Can-Cure-Sensory-Issues-Kids-38426705 privileged_medium=facebook&utm_source=post&utm_campaign=moms
Besides, you try telling this kid to sit still…
Immediately after this photo was taken, he scampered up the tree like a Red Panda.